I- Don’t use intimidation or humiliation tactics

II- Don’t bring up old issues while addressing the present ones

III- Don’t character assassinate your partner or their family/ friends

IV- Don’t set out to win the fight by any means necessary

V- Take healthy timeouts vs abandoning or avoiding conflict

VI- Be open to compromise/ negotiation vs. rigidity

VII- Bring solutions to the table vs. just complaints

VIII- Avoid absolute attacks vs. gaining mutual understanding/ empathy

IX- Use resources such as therapy, relationship books, clergy classes ect.