1- Initiate open dialogue together with the children’s feelings and help them to process their emotions about things different this year

2- be willing to hear children’s feelings and help them to process their emotions about things being different this year

3- Ask open-ended questions and be willing to listen w/ compassion and understanding to their emotional struggle

4- be patient with the process if your children are not ready to talk

5- reassure your children that the divorce/ separation is not their fault

6-refrain from over-spending as a result of guilt

7- create new and exciting rituals that symbolizes healthy transition

8- When and if possible, both parents should continue to participate in events together such as school plays parties for children

9-never triangulate your children by talking negatively about the other parent

10- maintain consistency and structure as much as possible

11- refrain from aiming false promises that you can’t keep such as the parents will get back together

12- seek therapy to help with this difficult transition during the holidays